So this morning, I received a package from my parents in Singapore. It is such a warm fuzzy feeling getting stuff from home. Most of the time, these boxes from home contains small little things that remind me how much my parents think of me. There is a lot of everyday practical items that my parents bought over time and consolidated to send to me. They are very special to me and makes me feel like my parents are there with me every step of the way. I know how expensive postage is and am always touched that my parents love me so much they still send stuff all this way to me. I know I am always on their mind just as they are on mine. My parents are the most amazing people I know, and I always tell people that so much of who I am is because of them. We didn’t have a lot growing up, but we always had enough. I know my parents worked hard every single day of their lives to provide for us and I will not be anywhere near where I am in life now if not for the both of them.
It is difficult starting life in a new country and being so far away from them. Even though I have travelled and lived all over the world, homesickness still hits me as hard as ever. I miss the food and my family in Singapore the most. There will always be a piece of Singaporean in me, even if I am to spend the rest of my life here in my newly adopted home, with my new family. I cannot wait to bring the Mr back to Singapore and show him the place I grew up in and share some good Asian food with him. I am also determined to show my children, in the future, this part of their heritage, hard as it may be. My husband and I want to create a family that celebrates both cultures and we want both countries’ flags to fly in our home because our family is both Singaporean and American. Cross cultural families are not a walk in the park. Just watch the Big Fat Greek Wedding (Oh yes, I have a big extended family)! It is a struggle and there are days when gets so frustrating, we are at a lost as to what to do with the differences. Those are times when we have to sit down together and decide how we want to adapt our individual cultures into our new family looking ahead, what are most important to each of us, and what we choose it to be. In some sense, we end up creating our own unique blend that makes up the culture in our little family. It take continuous work, understanding, patience and compromise, but we are committed to making it work. Our Singaporean American family will always be different here, but it will also be amazingly unique and special.
Anyway, here’s a peek into my latest package from Singapore and the happy thoughts it brings! Big hugs to my loved ones halfway across the world!
For SG50 (50th birthday of Singapore), every household gets a free goodie bag and my parents sent me the ones they received! It’s such a nice gift from them, along with some SG50 commemorative notes they got for us. 🙂 There were also some food items, some practical items for the house/the car, and some cute trinkets (not in photo).
Old school lanterns for the Mooncake Festival that has just passed. These bring back childhood memories as we use to light them up and walk around the neighbourhood on the night of the Mooncake Festival/Lantern Festival (with a few which burnt to crisp when we were not careful with them).
Here’s to all the cross-cultural families all over the world, may we create unique loving homes everywhere and always celebrate our diversity and differences!